Hi, my name is Amanda and I have anxiety… sounds like I’m entering a self help group right?
I have struggled with anxiety for years, sometimes it’s ok, sometimes it’s not but it is something I’ve learned to deal with. This isn’t something widely talked about, in fact anxiety isn’t something widely talked about in general and I guess it is harder for people to understand how someone with anxiety can work in an industry in which social events, networking and self promotion are so integral.
I’m not going to say it’s easy, I still have those panics that I’m not good enough, that no matter what my stats say no one actually reads my blog. I still get nervous when brands seem to be working with lots of other bloggers and I will question myself over it, why is that brand not working with me? Is there something I’m lacking? Is my blog not worthy of them? It’s hard to get those feelings under control and the best advice I can give is breathe. You are you, no one else can be you and whilst it is lovely to work with people if they don’t fit your blog ethos then it won’t be a good fit for either you or the brand. The same goes for social media, this is the highlights from peoples lives, no one is going to upload a photo when they have been in front of the laptop for hours, haven’t brushed their hair in days and look like Stig of the dump, it’s just not going to happen, so don’t compare yourself to someone who seems to have the perfect life because everyone has their issues.
I have found having a close blogging group has really helped with those awful ‘not good enough’ feelings, find girls who have similar interests to you and friendships will develop naturally. Luckily I have met two of my closest friends through blogging and, whilst I LOVE this, some days I just don’t know how I’d survive without them. If you do need some internal reassurance then just read some of your first blog posts and you will see how far you have come, trust me it’s a massive pick me up!
We all need reminded that we are all on our own journey, and just because you are not at the same level as someone else it doesn’t make you any worse, or them any better than you, just different….and who wants to be the same as everyone else? We are not made to be clones, and if we all had the same content/inspiration no one would read any of our blogs! I started blogging because I love fashion, there may be times when I feel jaded with it all & the pressure feels too much but I never started writing my blog for anyone else but me. This baby is mine and it’s far from perfect, but so am I and that’s just fine.
Life is not a competition, or a race, it’s yours and whilst you have to make the most of it, it’s ok to spend a day in bed too.