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Positive thoughts and challenging your inner demons

July 28, 2016

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Staying positive is difficult when we are bombarded with everyone’s “perfect life” through social media. Waking up in the morning the thing most of us do first is check our phones, not for texts from friends but our social media, to check likes from strangers and therefore gratify our self-worth. I can’t begin to explain how toxic this is.

challenging your inner demons

Recently I have struggled not only with my anxiety but with my sense of self-worth. And it all boils down to this single statement;

“comparison is the thief of joy”

Oh, that green-eyed monster! I wish I could say I’ve never been jealous but I’d be lying through my teeth. Looking at other bloggers jetting off around the world & wondering why that’s not me to wondering why one of my friends was asked to work with a brand and I wasn’t. Sure I’m happy for them but that comes from knowing how hard they’ve worked, it still doesn’t stop the fact that it made me question how good I was.

This leads to the worst thought process, I’ve thought about quitting blogging because “how can I compete” with other bloggers, how can I have what they already have? But that’s the beauty of the world we live in, there is infinite possibility & there is room for everyone (seriously) to do well. This all comes down to changing our thought process from negative to positive, not an easy thing to do but every little thing is a step in the right direction. When I feel jealous I remind myself how hard they’ve worked, I’ve even gone and read some of their first blog posts to help understand where they started from!

Writing down three things I am thankful for in the morning has been a great help. I try and include one from my blog every morning, if it’s a brand I’ve worked with or if it’s a jump in my stats I jot it down. And this is before I check my social media, because if I feel inadequate I’ve then got something to look back on, my own personal paper cheerleader.

Our self worth shouldn’t come from doing better than others, how awful would it be if you were having the best time and all of your friends/peers/colleagues were having the worst? So remember social media is not a good representation of someone’s life, it’s the best bits hand picked & filtered! Let’s all collectively step away from our phones, even if it’s just for an hour or two, and appreciate what we do have in life. See your friends, go for dinner, actually talk to people without the constant social media documentation. I promise the breather will be just what you need.

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5 Comments

  • Reply LAFOTKA July 28, 2016 at 12:01 pm

    Looking fab and agree, stepping away from our phones is a must! Especially in the morning… I do a 5 minute meditation as soon as I wake up every morning now and it’s doing wonders for my “wondering” mind! 🙂 hope you are good! Xx

    Tatyana X
    LAFOTKA
    http://www.lafotka.com

    • Reply Honeypop Kisses July 28, 2016 at 10:22 pm

      Love the meditation idea, I’ll have to look into it! You too sweets, it’s been too long x

  • Reply Frances Spencer-Barton August 5, 2016 at 11:32 am

    I have just recently got into the Headspace app, it starts with a 10 minute guided meditation and then you can build it up from there. It’s been really great.

    • Reply last year's girl August 6, 2016 at 12:20 pm

      I’ve used this too, can highly recommend it! I’ve gotten out of the way of making time for myself recently because I’ve been so busy – need to get back into the way of this again.

  • Reply Sophie Steele September 1, 2016 at 8:09 pm

    Read ‘Miracle Morning’ by Hal Elrond, in on my first week on the 30 day challenge and seriously noticing the rewards, check it out x

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