The July Honey Pop Club Box was never meant to be about mens mental health, but sometimes you need to use the outlets you are given to try and make sense of a difficult situation.
Mens mental health needs to be talked about. We’ve seen that in the last few months with Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington, but honestly Mens mental health, for me, has been much closer to home this year.
A few months ago one of my friends took his life. Honestly I don’t think I’ll ever get over it. We met when I was 21 and he was there for me when my dad died. He helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life and I loved him with all my heart for it. There are some people who make a lasting impact on your life and Alex was one of them, I still read the books he introduced me too, I listen to bands he sang to me, I wouldn’t be the person I am today it if wasn’t for him. And he’s gone. The finality of it is heartbreaking, every time I think of him I can’t help thinking of him alone, not seeing another way out. I understand it will get easier with time, but right now I feel like my heart has a hole in it.
A few weeks after Alex’s funeral my friend Darren committed suicide. They didn’t know each other, in fact the circumstances couldn’t have been more different. But it felt like a horrible nightmare was happening all over again. Darren or Daz was probably one of the happiest people I’ve ever met. He was exactly the same as the first day I met him, happy go lucky, crazy and well, Daz. I’ll never understand why, and I guess that’s the hardest part, not knowing. I just wish he’d known how many people cared about him, and that it’s ok not to be ok.
It’s OK not to be OK
Suicide is the biggest killer in young men in the UK. We need to make sure people know that there is someone there for them. Whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or to ask for professional advice.
Below are a few Mens Mental Health Charities that offer counseling services and helplines.
- Mind – We won’t give up until everyone experiencing a mental health problem gets support and respect.
- The Calm Zone – The Campaign Against Living Miserably is dedicated to preventing male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK.
- The Mix – The UK’s leading support service for people under 25.
- Joshua Nolan – Our aim is to reduce the number of suicides in Scotland by helping those who need it gain access to quality counselling.
- See Me Scotland – Our vision is to end mental health stigma and discrimination.
- Samaritans – Whatever you’re going through, call us free any time, from any phone on 116 123.
Watch the video below to find out what’s in this months Honey Pop Club. All profits will be donated to Mind.