Life Mental Health

A frank Discussion about Mens Mental Health for the Honey Pop Club

August 2, 2017

The July Honey Pop Club Box was never meant to be about mens mental health, but sometimes you need to use the outlets you are given to try and make sense of a difficult situation.

Mens mental health needs to be talked about. We’ve seen that in the last few months with Chris Cornell and Chester Bennington, but honestly Mens mental health, for me, has been much closer to home this year.

A few months ago one of my friends took his life. Honestly I don’t think I’ll ever get over it. We met when I was 21 and he was there for me when my dad died. He helped me through one of the most difficult times in my life and I loved him with all my heart for it. There are some people who make a lasting impact on your life and Alex was one of them, I still read the books he introduced me too, I listen to bands he sang to me, I wouldn’t be the person I am today it if wasn’t for him. And he’s gone. The finality of it is heartbreaking, every time I think of him I can’t help thinking of him alone, not seeing another way out. I understand it will get easier with time, but right now I feel like my heart has a hole in it.

A few weeks after Alex’s funeral my friend Darren committed suicide. They didn’t know each other, in fact the circumstances couldn’t have been more different. But it felt like a horrible nightmare was happening all over again. Darren or Daz was probably one of the happiest people I’ve ever met. He was exactly the same as the first day I met him, happy go lucky, crazy and well, Daz. I’ll never understand why, and I guess that’s the hardest part, not knowing. I just wish he’d known how many people cared about him, and that it’s ok not to be ok.

It’s OK not to be OK

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Suicide is the biggest killer in young men in the UK. We need to make sure people know that there is someone there for them. Whether it’s a shoulder to cry on or to ask for professional advice.

Below are a few Mens Mental Health Charities that offer counseling services and helplines.

  • Mind – We won’t give up until everyone experiencing a mental health problem gets support and respect.
  • The Calm Zone – The Campaign Against Living Miserably is dedicated to preventing male suicide, the single biggest killer of men under 45 in the UK.
  • The Mix – The UK’s leading support service for people under 25.
  • Joshua Nolan – Our aim is to reduce the number of suicides in Scotland by helping those who need it gain access to quality counselling.
  • See Me Scotland – Our vision is to end mental health stigma and discrimination.
  • Samaritans – Whatever you’re going through, call us free any time, from any phone on 116 123.

Watch the video below to find out what’s in this months Honey Pop Club. All profits will be donated to Mind.



  • Reply Andrew James (Beauty and The Boy) August 3, 2017 at 2:46 pm

    This is so important because i feel like a lot of people talk about mental health but nothing gets done about it you know everyone is all supportive of mental health until someone shows signs of mental ill health and suddenly everything changes and people change as if you’re a big inconvenience to them, i think thats why its not talked about by people who are suffering because we dont want to be treated any different.

  • Reply Ysabelle Graham-Smith August 9, 2017 at 8:04 am

    This is so so important. Thank you for this! Having lost a few men in both mine and my husbands lives to suicide, it is so refreshing to read something like this. Men’s mental health issues are not talked about enough.
    My dad has struggled with mental health issues his entire life, having suffered pretty horrific trauma in his childhood and never being able to process or deal with it. Rather than talking about it, he went on prescription after prescription, and bottled things up so much it effected every single part of his life… work, relationships, even relationships with his other kids.
    At the grand old age of 50 shit got so bad he ended up having to have 2 years of court mandated CBT, counselling and anger management and he’s now a completely different person! After years of trying to get him help, he ended up finally doing it himself and now he helps me with my mental health. He’s introduced me to meditation and all sorts… it’s madness.
    I’m so sorry to hear about your friends, I know how difficult it is losing someone to suicide, it’s such an odd grieving mechanism because it just doesn’t feel right (not that death ever does feel right) but, you know what I mean. There’s just so many questions, so many other feelings that come with it. I hope you’re doing okay!
    Thanks again for making the july box about mens mental health and using your voice for good!
    Ysabelle xx

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