Staying positive is difficult when we are bombarded with everyones “perfect life” through social media. Waking up in the morning the thing most of us do first is check our phones, not for texts from friends but our social media, to check likes from strangers and therefore gratify our self worth. I can’t begin to explain how toxic this is.
Recently I have struggled not only with my anxiety but with my sense of self worth. And it all boils down to this single statement;
“comparison is the thief of joy”
Oh that green eyed monster! I wish I could say I’ve never been jealous but I’d be lying through my teeth. Looking at other bloggers jetting off around the world & wondering why that’s not me to wondering why one of my friends was asked to work with a brand and I wasn’t. Sure I’m happy for them but that comes from knowing how hard they’ve worked, it still doesn’t stop the fact that it made me question how good I was. This leads to the worst thought process, I’ve thought about quitting blogging because “how can I compete” with other bloggers, how can I have what they already have? But that’s the beauty of the world we live in, there is infinite possibility & there is room for everyone (seriously) to do well. This all comes down to changing our thought process from negative to positive, not an easy thing to do but every little thing is a step in the right direction. When I feel jealous I remind myself how hard the’ve worked, I’ve even gone and read some of their first blog posts to help understand where they started from! Writing down three things I am thankful for in the morning has been a great help. I try and include one from my blog every morning, if it’s a brand I’ve worked with or if it’s a jump in my stats I jot it down. And this is before I check my social media, because if I feel inadequate I’ve then got something to look back on, my own personal paper cheerleader.
Our self worth shouldn’t come from doing better than others, how awful would it be if you were having the best time and all of your friends/peers/colleagues were having the worst? So remember social media is not a good representation of someones life, it’s the best bits hand picked & filtered! Let’s all collectively step away from our phones, even if it’s just for an hour or two, and appreciate what we do have in life. So see your friends, go for dinner, actually talk to people without the constant social media documentation. I promise the breather will be just what you need.