Blogging with Anxiety

Hi,  my name is Amanda and I have anxiety… sounds like I’m entering a self help group right?

I have struggled with anxiety for years, sometimes it’s ok, sometimes it’s not but it is something I’ve learned to deal with. This isn’t something widely talked about, in fact anxiety isn’t something widely talked about in general and I guess it is harder for people to understand how someone with anxiety can work in an industry in which social events, networking and self promotion are so integral.

I’m not going to say it’s easy, I still have those panics that I’m not good enough, that no matter what my stats say no one actually reads my blog. I still get nervous when brands seem to be working with lots of other bloggers and I will question myself over it, why is that brand not working with me? Is there something I’m lacking? Is my blog not worthy of them? It’s hard to get those feelings under control and the best advice I can give is breathe. You are you, no one else can be you and whilst it is lovely to work with people if they don’t fit your blog ethos then it won’t be a good fit for either you or the brand. The same goes for social media,  this is the highlights from peoples lives, no one is going to upload a photo when they have been in front of the laptop for hours, haven’t brushed their hair in days and look like Stig of the dump, it’s just not going to happen, so don’t compare yourself to someone who seems to have the perfect life because everyone has their issues.
I have found having a close blogging group has really helped with those awful ‘not good enough’ feelings, find girls who have similar interests to you and friendships will develop naturally. Luckily I have met two of my closest friends through blogging and, whilst I LOVE this, some days I just don’t know how I’d survive without them. If you do need some internal reassurance then just read some of your first blog posts and you will see how far you have come, trust me it’s a massive pick me up!
We all need reminded that we are all on our own journey, and just because you are not at the same level as someone else it doesn’t make you any worse, or them any better than you, just different….and who wants to be the same as everyone else? We are not made to be clones, and if we all had the same content/inspiration no one would read any of our blogs! I started blogging because I love fashion, there may be times when I feel jaded with it all & the pressure feels too much but I never started writing my blog for anyone else but me. This baby is mine and it’s far from perfect, but so am I and that’s just fine.
Life is not a competition, or a race, it’s yours and whilst you have to make the most of it, it’s ok to spend a day in bed too.
*images by Anastasia Tasou

 

 

8 Comments

  1. Ayden Millar August 26, 2015 / 6:52 pm

    Beautiful post Amanda. I also have anxiety and this week I've been put back on medication after a couple of years of being off them. As much as I am disappointed and feel like I'm taking a step back, I know I am really taking a step forward by allowing myself to be vulnerable and asking for a bit of help. I'm hoping to write a post about it soon, but I'll need to pluck up the courage to do so first. I really admire you for sharing this and for such lovely, honest words <3 xxx

  2. Georgina August 26, 2015 / 9:05 pm

    This is so lovely and helpful. I've only been on blogger since January and haven't really made any connections over it, but it's still really enjoyable. Having anxiety does make it difficult to work up the courage to press 'publish' though. <3

  3. Alanna Lauren August 27, 2015 / 8:18 am

    I suffered with anxiety for YEARS, mixed with depression it's been a rollercoaster ride which has had it's highest of highs and lowest of lows. After reading Ruby Waxes book 'Sane new world' it really helped me put things into a different perspective. It's so easy to put yourself into boxes and compare yourself to others whilst striving for the best version of yourself. My only advice would be, don't. Because YOU are beautiful, inside AND out. You have to walk with a swagger and fill the room with positive energy whilst holding your head up high. I write a blog too and because I don't have x amount of 1000's of followers, I'm not even given a glimpse, but you know what? I'll get there because I want to and I'll keep thinking positive thoughts and I know one day it will happen. I'm sure of it.

    Sure, we'll all have days where we feel like we are velcroed to the bed and all we want is to be left alone and maybe watch Ru-Paul's Drag race marathon's on Netflix whilst eating all the chocolate; and actually that's OK too.

    I've done loads of training sessions on mindfulness and once watched this video in a session which was the turning point for me:

    x

  4. last year&apos;s girl August 27, 2015 / 8:57 am

    I think it is so important for you to share this lovely. Like you say, anxiety is so little talked about and still so stigmatised. For somebody like yourself, who from where I am sitting seems to be at the top of her game, to share your struggle is a total game-changer, there are going to be people reading your post who might, for the first time, feel like they are not alone.

    And while it might have been super scary to share something that is massively personal with the people that you see at the social and networking side of this blogging game, I think it's awesome that you feel brave enough to share this. Now that I know you (and Ayden!) are fellow members of the anxiety tribe I'll know to always have your back, and that's a good thing.

    xx

  5. honey pop August 27, 2015 / 10:18 am

    Thank you all so much for your kind works and encouragement, I just got a little emotional reading it all! It does feel like we are on our own sometimes and hearing other peoples stories does help, esp when girls you admire say they feel the same way. Love you all from the bottom of my little pink soul <3

  6. Secret little Stars August 27, 2015 / 1:25 pm

    This is such a lovely honest post my love! I can totally relate to so many things you're saying here. It's such a competitive world we're in and the worst thing for us to do is to compare ourselves to someone who is more successful than us. They are successful in their own way with their circumstances, but we must be proud of what we achieved over the years ourselves with the help of our loved ones and the support group!

    I always read your blog and think you're great!

    Big love sweets

    Tats xx

  7. Cassie Rose August 31, 2015 / 11:14 am

    Well done for sharing and it is great to hear you have found ways to help you manage your anxiety 🙂 xx

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